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    • CommentAuthorcutebub
    • CommentTimeJul 3rd 2005 edited
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    I play lots of table tennis, i compete and im very good at my sport, but the problem with me is that in a game i get wound up. I get stressed and i lose, i also make mistakes on the simplest shots. Could anyone help me :wink:

    • CommentAuthorBuddy1
    • CommentTimeJul 4th 2005 edited
     # 2

    Yikes! Table tennis-aka, 'ping pong' such an innocent name for a deadly game. I was horribly horribly mutilated once in a 'table tennis' accident (well, two small scars on my foot but still, the trauma!).
    I may have related my tale per this on here before but my point is, stay away from this game, unless you're chinese and mandated by the government to play.
    Find a safer hobby, like white water rafting, or mountain climbing. I myself practice martial arts and clip newspaper articles, and except for the occasional concussion or paper cut these are fine relaxing pursuits.

    • CommentAuthorcutebub
    • CommentTimeJul 4th 2005 edited
     # 3

    Haha
    I can't. The sport is something im good at, something ive played for awhile and something that really calls me. I just need to relax in game situations

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    I used to be pretty uptight and what helped me was a regular meditation practice. You can usually find a place that teaches meditation techniques for free. Try http://www.shambhala-buddhism.org.nz/

    Or you might find some relaxation techniques here: http://www.drweil.com/u/MBS/

    and from the same site, I like this breathing exercise: http://www.drweil.com/u/QA/QA330184/

    Hope this helps. There are lots of resources out there; these are just my favorites.

    • CommentAuthorJoe
    • CommentTimeJul 4th 2005 edited
     # 5

    I think you've identified one of the opportunities in your life. Getting caught up in the desire to win is a "gift" to give you real practice in letting go. I agree with Lynn that some kind of meditation can help. (I'm finding Tai Chi works better for me than seated meditation.)

    Actually, looking at anything, as something to enjoy, to relax at, I think misses that nothing is like that all the time. Meditation, and life in general, is about paying attention, letting go, and being aware of how much gets in the way of that.

    I'm sure you have experiences of just flowing with the play of ping pong. And your thoughts about what you want to achieve in your play, have slowed down. Versus being caught up in the desire to win, your thoughts running away with how it should be, how you want it to turn out (you want to win!) Your "self" and your thoughts grab ahold of you. Learning to pay attention to that, to recognize where your thoughts and desires are leading you along, for me helps in the slow process of letting go.

    Take your time, and remind yourself of what craziness your desires are creating.

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    Thanks, Joe, for prefacing the phase "letting go" with "the slow process of." It sure is slow for me, and the more threatening the situation, the slower it goes. I appreciate all your posts, matter of fact.

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