Finger Rock, Arizona
I was one troubled teenager for a time. I’d go off to the mountains for some peace and solitude. I wasn’t very concerned with my safety; life didn’t seem to offer much advantage over death.
One year I climbed Finger Rock without ropes. Going up was easy; going down was terrifying. Was this a latent suicidal death wish? I don’t thinks so, primarily because I am not very emotional by nature. Although, neither am I drawn to rock climbing or thrill seeking in general, so who knows? As a kid I heard stories about a guy falling off Finger Rock and breaking so many bones that his body turned to the consistency of Jell-O. Recalling that probably got me to turn around before reaching the top, and so saved my life, no doubt.
Singing Wayfaring Stranger the other night reminded me of those difficult teenage years and of Finger Rock (1). As with many Christian Gospel songs, Wayfaring Stranger promises a heavenly afterlife, e.g., “I’ll soon be free from every trial…” and “I’m going there to meet my mother, she said she’d meet me when I come…”. This promise of a heavenly afterlife is one of the sharpest differences between Judeo-Christian-Islamic religions and Easter ones. Sure, the Easter ones promise something as well. However, with Karma you are merely promised an ‘upgrade’ (or downgrade), and while Nirvana sounds more heavenly, the path to it is a winding road of countless lifetimes, so the story goes.
The Eastern paradigm agrees more with the phenomenon of non-locality (a form of entanglement observed in quantum physics), although, you really need to read between the lines at times to appreciate that. The evidence of entanglement suggests that at the most subtle and fundamental level, everything and nothing are inextricably connected. Oneness, or is it Noneness, is real despite what our biological senses tell us. This suggests that the biologically induced sense of a separate self (the ego in humans) underlies the illusion of life and death.
Considering all of this, I can’t see how suicide or a promised heavenly afterlife accomplishes its goal. There is no escape; destiny is eternity. Of course, we can’t tell our emotions that. Those needs and fears drive us to do what we do, feel what we feel, and think what we think, regardless of non-local reality; emotions anchor our ‘local’ illusion of reality.
I sometimes feel down and out to this day. It’s nothing specific, just a general weariness with life. I now feel certain that ‘pure’ consciousness (2) is continuous, which may account for this weary feeling… I sometimes feel like I have been and will be alive forever. Knowing that consciousness is eternal also makes any hope of ending that weariness through suicide futile. This also makes any hope of gaining or losing the advantage, whatever it might be, futile.
What to do, what to do? Chapter 64’s call to ‘be as careful at the end as at the beginning, and there will be no ruined enterprises‘ is a good place to begin dealing with life. I find the joy in living lies in giving my utmost care to the enterprise of living. Giving, however, is not as easy as it sounds (3). The survival instinct drives us to take as much as we can get — gain, win, succeed. We fear loss. Indeed, our fear of death is really about the fear of losing the pleasures onto which we cling. We are in a life-and-death tug-of-war: our need to let go and give in order to enjoy life versus our fear of losing what we cherish, or not getting what we desire. Chapter 64 shows us the path to more peace, The sage desires not to desire and does not value goods which are hard to come by.
(1) An old friend from my teenage years read this post and remembers more which I’ll add below. I don’t think back on my past very often, so I’ve forgotten much of it. Still, who knows; I can’t recall how much I forgot.
I just read some of your Tao blog, I was with you when you climbed Finger Rock, I waited at the bottom of the rock, you did not pressure me to follow, thanks for that. I did not see you as a troubled teen at all, you were very happy and excited about life and had many interests. You were a risk taker but were confident in your actions, like walking on your hands at the edge of a cliff in Sabino Canyon near the top of Thimble Rock.
I think you were so good at walking on your hands plus had no fear, (like a French tight rope walker) fear kills. Our many trips in caves I had no fear also because I couldn’t see how far I would fall, your lack of fear made me think everything we did was reasonably safe.
I know you were cautious when you needed to be, I remember many cases of testing before acting.
(2) I see ‘pure’ consciousness is the foundation upon which living things perceive their personal identity. The foundation continues; the illusions of personal identity cease when biological function ceases. Naturally, I can’t prove it!
(3)Giving is not as simple as it sounds either. For example, chapter 81 says, ‘The sage does not hoard. Having bestowed all he has on others, he has yet more; having given all he has to others, he is richer still.‘ It is important to note that the ‘bestowed all he has‘ and ‘given all he has‘ is not literally giving things to others. Such overt gross giving is discordant with the natural balance of give and take, and thus unintended consequences inevitably follow. “The road to hell is paved with good intentions”. The giving referred to here is a state of mind and emotion, an approach to living and not the handing out of $100 bills — although there can be a time and a place for overt giving as well!
(See: The Further One Goes for background on this ‘Times of Yore’ series of posts.)
Good questions. I’ll do my best…
• Weariness is a fundamental aspect of nature. It is available for any and every “who” to feel. The synergistic array of countless neurons that creates this illusion of self (this writer now) will experience the weariness. When these neurons die, their dust will experience the weariness of neurons gone to dust. The weariness is universal, the illusion of self feels it just applies only to itself (at least initially). (Weariness correlates to entropy, yin, silence, dark, heavy, empty, time, eternity).
• The relationship of a mother toward her child has elements of both giving and taking. The less you are looking for a particular outcome in life, the more likely yours is a giving approach. Expecting successful results is a taking approach. Life is a taking experience beginning with taking food, water, air.
Giving in like measure back to ‘life’ __(you name what in particular)__ will result in the deepest sense of well-being possible, I’d imagine.
This balance of ‘give and take‘ applies to every act in life. Let’s say you go down to buy an ice-cream cone. The store ran out of your favorite flavor. Graceful acceptance of that disappointment is giving. Whining tantrum of not getting what you want is taking. Now, just apply this formula to what is important to you, ___(you name it)___.
Counting your blessings is giving. That is why we generally have such difficulty appreciating our advantages… instinct tells us “more is better”. This goes back to life, and survival. We are always urged to take more than we give. In natural wild circumstances, nature balances living things by requiring them to give, e.g., be prey (food) for predators, be plant food for herbivores. Human civilization strives to free us from this ‘pay your way’ aspect of nature and allow us to take all we can, and give back as little as possible. After all, human life is extra precious (he said sarcastically).
If after death, there is no more personal identity, then who is weary? You say you have a weariness of life. When life is gone, what are you weary of?
Can you say more about a giving approach towards life. I think of a mother towards her child or me with my dogs. Is that what you mean? (Are all women so subjective? I always need an example.)