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Suicide Just Doesn’t Work

Finger Rock, Arizona

Finger Rock, Arizona

I was one troubled teenager for a time. I’d go off to the mountains for some peace and solitude. I wasn’t very concerned with my safety; life didn’t seem to offer much advantage over death.

One year I climbed Finger Rock without ropes. Going up was easy; going down was terrifying. Was this a latent suicidal death wish? I don’t think so, primarily because I am not very emotional by nature. Although, I’m not drawn to rock climbing or thrill seeking either, so who knows? As a kid I heard stories about a guy falling off Finger Rock and breaking so many bones that his body turned to the consistency of Jell-O. Fortunately, recalling that probably got me to turn around before reaching the top.

Singing Wayfaring Stranger the other night reminded me of those difficult teenage years and of Finger Rock (1). As with many Christian Gospel songs, Wayfaring Stranger promises a heavenly afterlife, e.g., “I’ll soon be free from every trial…” and “I’m going there to meet my mother, she said she’d meet me when I come…”. This promise of a heavenly afterlife is one of the sharpest differences between Judeo-Christian-Islamic religions and Eastern ones. Sure, the Eastern ones promise something as well. However, with Karma you are merely promised an upgrade (or downgrade), and while Nirvana sounds more heavenly, the path to it is a winding road of countless lifetimes, so the story goes.

The Eastern paradigm agrees more with the phenomenon of non-locality—a form of entanglement observed in quantum physics—although, you really need to read between the lines at times to appreciate that (google [quantum physics for 7 year olds TEDx]). The evidence of entanglement suggests that at the most subtle and fundamental level, everything and nothing are inextricably connected. Oneness, or is it Noneness, is real despite what our biological senses tell us. This suggests that the biologically induced sense of a separate self, the ego in humans, underlies the illusion of life and death.

Considering all of this, I can’t see how suicide or a promised heavenly afterlife accomplishes its goal. There is no escape; destiny is eternity. Of course, we can’t tell our emotions that. Our needs and fears drive us to do what we do, feel what we feel, and think what we think, regardless of non-local reality; emotions anchor our local illusion of reality.

I sometimes feel deep sadness. It’s nothing specific, just a general weariness with life. I now feel certain that pure consciousness(2) is continuous, which may account for this weary feeling… I sometimes feel like I have been and will be alive forever. Knowing that consciousness is eternal also makes any hope of ending that weariness through suicide futile. This also makes any hope of gaining or losing the advantage, whatever it might be, futile.

What to do, what to do? Chapter 64’s call to be as careful at the end as at the beginning, and there will be no ruined enterprises is a good place to begin dealing with life. I find the joy in living lies in giving my utmost care to the enterprise of living. Giving, however, is not as easy as it sounds (3). The survival instinct drives us to take — gain, win, succeed. We dread loss. Indeed, our fear of death is really about the fear of losing the pleasures and expectations in life to which we cling. We are in a life-and-death tug-of-war: our need to let go in order to enjoy life versus our fear of losing what we value and not achieving what we desire. Chapter 64 offers one way to deal with this battle, The sage desires not to desire and does not value goods which are hard to come by.

(1) An old friend read this post and remembered more of those teenage years, which I’ll add below. I don’t ponder my past often, so I’ve forgotten much. Fortunately I suppose, I can’t recall how much I forgot.

I just read some of your Tao blog, I was with you when you climbed Finger Rock, I waited at the bottom of the rock, you did not pressure me to follow, thanks for that. I did not see you as a troubled teen at all, you were very happy and excited about life and had many interests. You were a risk taker but were confident in your actions, like walking on your hands at the edge of a cliff in Sabino Canyon near the top of Thimble Rock.

I think you were so good at walking on your hands and had no fear, like a French tight rope walker. Fear kills. Our many trips in caves I had no fear also because I couldn’t see how far I would fall. Your lack of fear made me think everything we did was reasonably safe.

I know you were cautious when you needed to be, I remember many cases of testing before acting.

(2) Pure consciousness is the foundation upon which living things perceive their personal identity. When biological function dies, the illusions of personal identity end, yet the foundation continues. Naturally, I can’t prove it!

(3) Giving is not as simple as it sounds either. For example, chapter 81 says, The sage does not hoard. Having bestowed all he has on others, he has yet more; having given all he has to others, he is richer still. It is important to note that the bestowed all he has and given all he has doesn’t literally mean giving all the stuff you have to others. Such overt giving is discordant with the natural balance of give and take, and thus unintended consequences inevitably follow. “The road to hell is paved with good intentions”. The giving referred to here is a state of mind and emotion, an approach to living and not the handing out of $100 bills — although there can be a time and a place for overt giving as well!

(See: The Further One Goes [Biographical Notes, p.xii ]for background on this Times of Yore series of posts.)

 

Sep 27, 2009 by Carl Abbott
Filed Under: Observations, Times of Yore

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  1. Carl Abbott says

    Mar 12, 2019 at 3:22 pm

    Alexander says.

    …that’s why euthanasia is a human right #1

    This post isn’t disputing the “human right” to do or not do anything. It attempts to describe something much deeper about life and consciousness. Your emotional reply offers a fine example of how anything that appears to downplay some issue one feels vital will makes any ‘reading between the lines’ impossible. Emotions rule awareness. If interested, see Fear Rules; Fear Is The Bottom Line; and Fear & Need Born in Nothing

  2. Alexander says

    Feb 23, 2019 at 2:22 am

    C’mon, enough with nonsense. If you are very old and have a poor health, it’s OK to end your life (instantly/painlessly, that’s why euthanasia is a human right #1). It’s idiotic to endure strong suffering when you can stop it.
    If you’re young, but life is just a stupid repetetive activity/suffering/job slavery… It’s OK too.
    The only problem with suicide is that euthanasia/assisted suicide are not availiable in most contries for most age groups. That shows selfishness and cruelty of people. Nobody should endure additional suffering, death should be painfree.
    Stop justifying suffering. Death is inevitable anyway. Hope is in most cases delusion.
    If there is no identity, there is no you as you know you after death. So you can rest in peace.
    I wish everyone to be free from suffering and all kinds of slavery.

  3. Carl says

    Sep 8, 2012 at 6:20 pm

    Good questions. I’ll do my best…

    • Weariness is a fundamental aspect of nature. It is available for any and every “who” to feel. The synergistic array of countless neurons that creates this illusion of self (this writer now) will experience the weariness. When these neurons die, their dust will experience the weariness of neurons gone to dust. The weariness is universal, the illusion of self feels it just applies only to itself (at least initially). (Weariness correlates to entropy, yin, silence, dark, heavy, empty, time, eternity).

    • The relationship of a mother toward her child has elements of both giving and taking. The less you are looking for a particular outcome in life, the more likely yours is a giving approach. Expecting successful results is a taking approach. Life is a taking experience beginning with taking food, water, air.

    Giving in like measure back to ‘life’ __(you name what in particular)__ will result in the deepest sense of well-being possible, I’d imagine.

    This balance of ‘give and take‘ applies to every act in life. Let’s say you go down to buy an ice-cream cone. The store ran out of your favorite flavor. Graceful acceptance of that disappointment is giving. Whining tantrum of not getting what you want is taking. Now, just apply this formula to what is important to you, ___(you name it)___.

    Counting your blessings is giving. That is why we generally have such difficulty appreciating our advantages… instinct tells us “more is better”. This goes back to life, and survival. We are always urged to take more than we give. In natural wild circumstances, nature balances living things by requiring them to give, e.g., be prey (food) for predators, be plant food for herbivores. Human civilization strives to free us from this ‘pay your way’ aspect of nature and allow us to take all we can, and give back as little as possible. After all, human life is extra precious (he said sarcastically).

  4. Lynn cornish says

    Sep 8, 2012 at 1:03 pm

    If after death, there is no more personal identity, then who is weary? You say you have a weariness of life. When life is gone, what are you weary of?

    Can you say more about a giving approach towards life. I think of a mother towards her child or me with my dogs. Is that what you mean? (Are all women so subjective? I always need an example.)

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