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A How-To for Extinguishing Self

Why and how of self One of the main themes in Buddhism is the extinguishing of self through enlightenment… or is it the other way around? Both ways work if we’re referring to ‘original self’. So, are they the same thing? Initially asking such basic questions on word meaning often helps when pondering life. The more basic question here is, “What is self in the first place?”

“What is self in the first place?”

Let’s consider the self in the largest sense of the word. In biology there is the concept of emergent properties where simple structures, processes, and order, form a foundational pattern from which emerge structures, processes, and order that are more complex.

This principle applies not only in biology, but throughout all existence as well. Indeed, what is biology but an emergent property of some more primordial order? It is helpful to think of the self as just such an emergent property, not only of biology, but also of something universal that extends From the present back to antiquity, as chapter 21 puts it. (See Tao as Emergent Property, p.121.)

It helps to take into account the natural impetus in all things to maintain a kind of self-integrity… From the impetus that keeps an atom of hydrogen stable to the impetus that keeps the human heart pumping away. In all things, this impetus to maintain self-integrity is not self-conscious. As chapter 20 put it, like a baby that has not yet learned to smile. The atom doesn’t think it has to keep-it-together, and neither does the heart as it pumps. The worm, the tree, the crow all feel the impetus to keep-it-together… to survive, but none think they “should”. There is impetus to just-do-it, without any thoughts of choice or purpose. We humans are different, at least on the surface.

The emergent property of a mind knowing ‘I am’

The mind is an emergent property of thought, which enables us to think that we know. One of the earliest things we think that we know is “I am”. All the while, however, the innate drive to maintain self-integrity (survival) is pulling the strings. In addition, the more confident one feels “I am”, the harder it is to appreciate that instincts are actually pulling the strings. About 400 years ago, the belief in “I am” got a real boost in the Western world from Descartes, “I think, therefore I am; or I am thinking, therefore I exist”. From a Taoist point of view, such certainty just asks for trouble. As chapter 71 puts it:

To know yet to think that one does not know is best;
Not to know yet to think that one knows will lead to difficulty

Deeming everything that you think and do as an emergent property of something ancient (if not eternal) is very calming, especially when felt deeply. On the other hand, this “I am” and the other beliefs we hold true can often lead to trouble. For example, the idea of God hints at what chapter 4 calls a darkly visible, it only seems as if it were there something. However, the belief in a particular personal God fosters a perpetual focal point for “your God” vs. “my God” division and strife. Still, as a tribal species, I guess we need something to squabble and fight over.

Buddha’s Second Noble Truth states, “The illusion of self originates and manifests itself in a cleaving to things”. His Third and Fourth Truth go on to say that “conquering self” and “whose self disappears before truth” will end suffering. Finally, Buddha’s Eight Fold Path offers a means to accomplish this task. Taken too seriously, this sets up an ideal that is impossible to achieve. This is also the case with some of Jesus’ ideals. Doesn’t setting up ideals that are impossible to achieve create unnecessary stress? Then again, being a somewhat neurotic primate, we may need impossible dreams to aim for. Still, lowering our ideals to correspond with reality better makes sane sense.

Ideals as emergent properties

Up to this point, we see that the thought of self is perhaps just an emergent property of a simpler universal reality. This gives some clues for our goal of extinguishing this illusion. Going forward, it will help to examine the ideal of extinguishing the self from an emergent property point of view.

It’s not an accidental whim of nature that human thought is rife with ideals: spiritual, political, romantic, health, intelligence, knowledge, sports… you name it! Ideals provide the direction for our actions, our self-actualization. Overall, such ideals themselves are emergent properties, not only of biology, but of something primordial as well.

First, let’s review: In biology, there is the concept of emergent properties where primary structures, processes and order, form a foundational pattern upon which more complex structures, processes and orders emerge. This principle is at work throughout Nature.

Still deeper, I see balance serving as Nature’s fundamental ideal or principle. This ideal gives the impetus to maintain self-integrity for all phenomena. Likewise, Nature’s core ideal of balance serves as the foundation out of which all human ideals emerge. (Whoa! That’s a big chunk to bite off, I’ll admit.)

Now, to bite off an even bigger one!

The ideal of balance underlying the impetus of Nature to balance itself can never be realized! Ironically, any state of perfect balance is not perfect unless it allows for and incorporates imbalance. In other words, perfect balance is counter balanced by a necessary degree of imbalance. The ideal can never be reached for reaching it would be one sided—static. Thus, perceived perfection and balance are an illusion, incomplete, and not the cosmic ‘big picture’ for this abandons imbalance. As chapter 78 says, straightforward words seem paradoxical. Not surprisingly, chapter 45 puts this principle more poetically… Great perfection seems chipped, Yet use will not wear it out.

The ‘how to’ of extinguishing the self

We have finally come to the ‘how to’ part of extinguishing self. Chapter 71’s warning gives us a clue… To know yet to think that one does not know is best; Not to know yet to think that one knows will lead to difficulty. The question is how can one know and yet think one doesn’t? This really boils down to the depth of faith you have in names and words. The more faith you have in them, the further from the constant you will unavoidably be; as chapter 1 observes, The name that can be named is not the constant name.

Chapter 56 gives us more clues: One who knows does not speak [think, write]; one who speaks [thinks, writes] does not know. I added thinks, writes as those interrelate with speaks. To put this in an emergent property context: first comes think, then speak, then write. Chapter 56 also advises us to Shut the doors, Blunt the sharpness; Untangle the knots; Soften the glare. To me, these points are metaphorical for softening our faith in names and words. Next, chapter 56 refers to mysterious sameness, which reveals the illusion of difference. Ironically, the illusion of difference is essential to maintain meaning and faith—the “reality”—in names and words.

Okay, I’ll admit, I am only beating around the bush of how to extinguish self. This may be as far as I can ever go. Perhaps Buddha’s Second Noble Truth shows why. Namely, “The illusion of self originates and manifests itself in a cleaving to things”. Words, names, ideals, and beliefs are all things to which we can cling in order to maintain our illusionary sense of self. Yet, as we have seen, even absent these things, we would still experience the primary property of an un-self-conscious self. The “illusion of self”, itself, is a natural emergent property. Any notion of ridding ourselves of this is itself a delusionary ideal. Round and round we go!

This brings us back to the only escape I have found — mysterious sameness! The more I can see similarity in all things, the softer, and more muddled my faith becomes in apparent differences between words, names, beliefs, and ideals. I’m able to be more like other animals, less dominated by that which so easily throws me off balance… namely faith in words, names, beliefs, and ideals. This is as close to “A How-To for Extinguishing Self” I’ve come.

Perhaps chapter 36 offers the best view of the how extinguishing self plays out over time in each of us.

If you would have a thing shrink,
You must first stretch it;
If you would have a thing weakened,
You must first strengthen it;
If you would have a thing laid aside,
You must first set it up;
If you would take from a thing,
You must first give to it.
This is called subtle discernment:
The submissive and weak will overcome the hard and strong.

Feb 21, 2010 by Carl Abbott
Filed Under: Observations

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  1. dumma says

    Jul 24, 2013 at 4:17 pm

    it is like the old joke…how did the man get out of the elephant?…he ran around until he got pooped out.

    What does a pooped Self look like right before that moment…exhausted on the possibilities, able to cling to nothing, though wanting to…a very dark canal…

    …which is why so few ever come close…too afraid of the darkness of the Truth.

    So, to comfort ourselves, we write about it…ad nauseum.

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