This is an interesting perceptual phenomenon. Is it true and real? Hmm, that’s hard to say, which makes it all the more fascinating to ponder. Looking at life through this lens can be helpful, regardless of how true it is. At the very least, it gives insight to why others may be the way they seem to be. Blurring the lines of judgment like this lets them off the hook for being who they are. This blurring lines of distinction also allows you to relax more.
And don’t forget the “visa versa” part of this. You’ll get insight on why you seem to be the way you are. The blurred lines of distinction let you off the hook for being who you are.
By the way, this way of looking at “you and them” parallels the Hindu, That Thou Art