This saying is a nice ideal, but flawed I’m afraid to say. I’ve always been fond of D.C. Lau’s “Circumstances bring them to maturity“. It is true, even if that is not exactly what the Chinese character’s say in that chapter. Just what is it about ‘circumstances’ that bring us to maturity, and presumably deeper wisdom?
Back in my twenties, I realized how life’s pains were the grist that actually taught me the life lessons I had to learn. It was in those years that I found Buddha’s Four Truths to ‘tell it like it was’. The second truth in particular rang true; especially …the desire to live for the enjoyment of self entangles us in a net of sorrows. Pleasures are the bait and the result is pain. I began seeing “pain” as the likely result of some misstep on my part. I began seeing “pain” as the likely result of some misstep on my part. I knew it would be wise to learn as quickly as possible; otherwise I was destined to revisit the same stumbling block repeatedly. Stumbling wasn’t something to avoid; repeating the same mistake was the problem; it remains an utmost concern.
That people become wiser as they age is a commonly held view. It is one of a few with which I can’t quibble. I’ve always thought that a person’s accumulation of life experience was the key reason for this. A few days ago, I took this view a step further by asking myself, what is in the field-of-experience that drags us down into deeper maturity? Well duh… pain of course!
Now at 70, there is a lot more background pain to deal with. Earlier in life, it was self-inflicted pain, i.e., “…Pleasures are the bait and the result is pain” pain. As I’m aging, a whole slew of ‘undeserved’ pain is showing up. There is the general and increasing loss of acuity of the senses—hearing, sight, taste, smell. Then there is the physical decline—skin that spouts blood with the slightest scrape. I now say, after working in the garden a while, that if I’m not bleeding somewhere, I’ve not really done anything. The decline of physical ability, the stiffness, and the arthritis is always knocking at awareness’s door.
These pains are the sort everyone will suffer as they age to one extent or another. These ‘undeserved’ declines and feeling the ‘unfairness’ of entropy are incredibly powerful forces. Yielding to them gracefully brings precious humility and wisdom. This approach is nicely spoken to in chapter 61, Using stillness she serves the lower position.
Words to the unwise fall upon deaf ears
Recently I faced up to the fact that We only understand what we know. If true, what hope is there for the young to hear any words to the wise? They naturally lack the wisdom required to understand. It takes wisdom to know wisdom, or as I like to say, “It takes a sage to know as sage.” This natural ignorance has another repercussion. The young easily end up taking another person’s ostensible wisdom at face value that often ends up being misguided faith. “Beware of false prophets”, I believe the Bible says somewhere.
It is a conundrum for sure! The difficulty lies in not having the experience to know whether one has the experience to know. Given this, how can one judge the wisdom of any words offered as ‘words of wisdom’? Misinterpretation and misunderstanding are inevitable. As far as I’ve found, this is only mitigated by embracing the view expressed in chapter 71. Alas, even here, some degree of humility and reflection are essential… like I said, “It takes wisdom to know wisdom”. Life’s a trip! 😉
Realizing I don’t know is superior, not knowing this realization is a defect.
Man alone faults this defect, this so as not to be defective.
The sacred person is not defective, taking his defect as a defect.
Man alone has this defect, this is because to him there is no defect.